My Solo Summer Begins

I am a single mother and have been for nearly ten years. An unfortunate aspect of this reality is the dreaded summer separation. This will be my sixth year of sending my daughter more than 2000 miles away for two and a half months.

Other than the major savings in childcare, this situation comes with a pretty nice perk – total and complete freedom for ten full weeks.

[I’ll pause here while the moms who do not have this luxury take this in. You good? Okay.]

I can go where I want when I want. If someone says, “Want to catch a movie Friday night?” I can say yes without the hassle of finding a babysitter. (Not that this ever happens, but if it did, I’d be ready.)

There’s less laundry, less yelling, and more hot water.

At the same time, there is the negative. I lose my daughter for ten weeks. My daughter is my best friend. We do everything together. Which means when she’s gone, I have no one to hang out with. And now that everyone knows I have no friends, we’ll move this along.

There are stages to this ordeal and I’m currently in what I call my trying-not-to-think-about-it stage. We’re at T-10 days and counting so this stage should continue through the weekend. However, next week, I slide into the grumpy phase. This is when not thinking about it is no longer possible but thinking about it makes me mad. I growl. A lot.

Then a two day drive and my solo summer begins.

The best way I’ve found to get through is to have a plan. So far, in all five previous years, my plan has been derailed immediately and by the time Kiddo gets back, I’ve accomplished nothing. So my new plan is not to have a plan. Instead, I’ve set one goal.

Finish the current rough draft no later than August 15th

I realize this might not seem like much, but that’s at least 70K words in under two and a half months. So maybe I should add one more goal – come out of this summer with a complete MS AND my sanity.

8 thoughts on “My Solo Summer Begins”

  1. Hellion says:

    We seriously need to expand your local friendship list.
    But otherwise, great goal! Know you can do it…if you leave off SYTYCD and AGT and all the other reality shows they’re filling in for the summer.

  2. Terri Osburn says:

    It took me a full 30 seconds to figure out AGT. Uh uh. Hate that one. The Voice won’t last much longer and then it will be SYTYCD only. I’ll record White Collar and catch up on those one night a week or something.

  3. Terri, I think that’s a very attainable goal–approximately 1k a day, if I did my math right. LOL (You might want to doublecheck my figures though!)
    I’m sure it’s hard to get used to the transition at first, but then once you’re into it, it’ll fly by. 🙂

  4. Terri Osburn says:

    That would be 1K a day for the 10 wks. Did you use a calculator? 😉
    I start off mopey, then get better and suddenly I realize the weeks are going faster. Then around 8 wks, we both get mopey until she gets back. But it’s also usually around the 9 wk mark that I’ve gotten comfortable being alone. LOL!
    Hellie is constantly telling me I’m going to be a mess when she leaves for college. If I have my way, she won’t be going far. 🙂

  5. Sounds like a plan… It’s amazing how all of us waste time in mental dithers before any particular shift to our reality.
    Going on vacation? I’ll be a flake a week before. On vacation? Begins with brain shut off, middle brain is beginning to think about being home, last few days…all a dither about getting home.
    Good stuff? Bad stuff? It’s the same. Humans have too much sense of change and so we dither as it approaches and begins.
    And yeah, you need a few local go-to-the-movies friends… We could do it… I’ll call and we both go and then afterward we sit in seperate Starbucks and discuss the movie… 😉

  6. Terri Osburn says:

    I do get worked up when I know something big is coming. Don’t want to think about last summer when I had Nationals AND buying a house. OMG! That was hell on my psyche. LOL!
    I thought this would get easier as she got older, but I was wrong. It gets harder. And I like the movie idea. Except I’d either have to go really early or you’d have to go really late. 🙂 I like matinees. (Cheaper!)

  7. Well, we could both do matinees, then meet later in our seperate Starbucks to discuss them…

  8. Terri Osburn says:

    I’m more likely to be on my couch, but I’ll pretend and tell you I’m at Starbucks if that will make you feel better.

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