Free Time

This is a topic I know little about. So I’m sure you’re asking, “Why the hell are you blogging about it then?” Great question but you can turn the attitude down just a notch. I’m blogging about it for two reasons: 1) I haven’t blogged about anything over here in waaaaaaaaaaaay too long and 2) I just found a little of it. Free time that is. I’ve been crazy at work not to mention at home what with school, traveling, the holidays and all that jazz. But just now, I finished a project at work, another is sort of in a holding pattern, the bosses are gone and I find my time is mine for just a few minutes.

Free time is a commodity to me. I scratch for it, rarely find it and can’t really afford to make it. And I find, believe it or not, free time is a de-motivator. If I find myself with a minute or two, I squander it. Then I feel guilty because I could have accomplished so much in that time. It leads me to think free time is really my enemy and not something I should yearn to have. It would slow me down; stop me in my tracks. Lead me to do things like blog about nothing when I should be working on something productive – like my Christmas wish list my mother keeps asking for. Now that’s an important something I ought to be doing.

Do you find lots of *free* time on your hands and if you do, what do you do with it? Are you like me and feel guilty about having it then feel more guilty about not getting anything done with it? Did that last sentence make any sense? Do us a favor and share a little free time with us. You’ll feel better about yourself and you can mark off “spread wisdom and insight” on your list of things to do.

12 thoughts on “Free Time”

  1. I am enormously selfish with my free time. I didn’t used to have any (4 kids into sports and everything else, 2 elderly live-in parents, job, classes, volunteer work, huge house to clean,etc.). I waste a fair amount of time now, telling myself I’m “researching” when I’m really blog-hopping, reading and lying around in my PJs thinking. It’s my turn to goof off. I do work hard at my day job, but I’ve learned to say no to extra things, even if it’s, say, a faculty party. I don’t need to spend any more time with my colleagues than necessary. I used to be the one organizing stuff like that. I guess I’ve lost my school spirit.*g*

  2. terrio says:

    It’s nice to know I’ll get there someday, Maggie. School for another year, Is graduates in 10. LOL! Maybe after that? Oh, unless I have another one which is looking like a long shot but you never know. *does the math* Ack! I don’t want to think about it.

  3. MistyJo says:

    I have free time now that I’m out of school. I love coming home and not having to worry about papers, projects, and such. Though I should be grading some papers and working on lesson plans, but the procrastinator in me rebels at the thought! I know some people who equivilate free time to boredom. They have to be doing something at all times, or they are just not happy. Not Me! I love down time.

  4. terrio says:

    See, Misty, I need to take on that attitude. It’s the guilt. It kills me. I’m always trying to think of something I can do either while I’m doing something else or while I’m waiting to do something else. It’s a sickness.

    So I have no trouble sitting still. I just beat myself up for it afterward. LOL!

  5. Janga says:

    I thought that I would have loads of free time once I was no longer working full time. For one thing, I have less than half the grading load that I have had in previous years. Alas! I seem to have less free time than before–or so I tell myself. But I admit that I spend a disgraceful amount of time online; some of it could doubtless be spent more productively. I think that time and my “thinking time” are necessary to my mental health though, so I try not to feel guilty.

    I do find that, like Maggie, I am saying no to more things. I hate huge parties, the kind where I have to circulate and make forced conversation with tons of people, many of whom I barely know and some of whom I actively dislike. I guiltlessly say “No, thanks” to those invitations now. I have a harder time saying no when one of the kids calls asking if I can babysit. I adore the grands, but a day with them usually requires an additional day to recoup my energy.

  6. terrio says:

    I need to practice saying no. Like when I got volunteered to handle publicity for my local chapter conference. I knew I would be pressed for time with current obligations but I still said yes. I need more practice. LOL!

    Janga – I love my own child to the ends of the Earth but that doesn’t make me a kid person. I don’t know if I could ever be that mom who always has tons of kids at her house. I guess we’ll have to see and it will depend on how they behave but I’m not looking forward to that part. *g*

    I do hope you find more time but I have selfish reasons. I really want to read your book. Everytime you post a snippet I find myself leaning into the screen as I read it and longing to turn the page and keep going.

  7. Quantumphase says:

    Time for me is one of the most intriguing features of our world.Great minds have puzzled over it. Our existence depends on it and it seems to have been created in the Big Bang. As a PhD student I spent so much time trying to figure why it always flows to the future, even though there appeared to be nothing in my equations to stop it flowing to the past! Einstein really complicated things by linking it with space and mass. One useful tip from his theory is ‘the faster you go, the more time you have’ *g*

    When you find that elusive free time, just enjoy it, bottle it, and tell me where you found it!

  8. Anonymous says:

    Terri-

    I refuse to feel guilty over free time because to me, free time gives me back my sanity. I also travel at about the speed of light for months, that the second I get free time, I find myself chatting up with friends over the internet, reading romances, or doing absolutely nothing. Free time reminds me of who I am, and prepares me for going the speed of light for another few months.

    This holiday season, I am going to visit my family in SJ (it’s been almost two years since I last stayed longer than two days!) Then, I’m going to come to school and read books, relax, and sew. It’s going to be great!

    Di

  9. Quantumphase says:

    Be very careful Di. At the speed of light your time dilates but you also put on weight! *g*

  10. terrio says:

    Now, Q, that is not a very gentlemanly thing to say to a woman. Even if it is based in some kind of scientific truth. LOL! That’s just mean.

    But just in case I think I better slow down.

  11. irisheyes says:

    You posted again!!! I should have been checking in with all this free time on my hands! LOL

    No surprise here, but I feel a lot like you when it comes to squandering free time (I blame the Catholics again). GUILT! That by no means, prevents me from doing it quite often, but the guilt is still there.

    I’ve developed a whole support team that I can call on at a moments notice. Basically, any one of them will justify for me, make excuses for me or just give me permission to not be productive. It’s a dangerous thing!

    I, too, have learned to say no. It’s very healing. It also gets easier the more you do it and here’s a little secret – nobody has turned around and yelled “I hate you!” at me for it. I think that was always my fear. I have been known to be a huge people pleaser and conflict avoider! Saying yes was just always easier.

    It’s all kind of a double edged sword. I’m the happiest and least stressed I’ve ever been in my life, but I also don’t feel as if I’m contributing as much as I should (even though I’m told otherwise). It’s sort of like I’m acting like I know I should to lead a healthy, stress free life, but it goes against my nature so it feels wrong.

    I’m determined to “fake it til I make it!” My goal is to be in bed at 9 pm, sleep til 10 am, play with my dogs, play with my kids, play with my husband (TMI! LOL) and get the word “should” out of my vocabulary. It’s an uphill battle every day!!!

  12. terrio says:

    Irish – we are so alike it’s scary. LOL! I have gotten to the point where I have a policy. Almost everything I do in my life I do because I HAVE to. So, if the few things I get the chance to do because I WANT to are not fun, I don’t do them. It’s that simple. Time is too precious at the moment for me to be miserable. Most of the *have to* stuff I enjoy too but that description of a dream life you give sounds oh so nice. *sigh* Some day.

    I love the “I’m gonna fake it til I make it!” part. That might become my new motto! LOL!

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