My Word For 2014 – ENJOY!

Posted Jan 2 2014, 12:10 am in , , ,

Enjoy

When I was a kid, life wasn’t always great. So to muddle through, I learned to live for tomorrow. I’d convince myself I had to keep going because there was something better coming. I was happy to work for whatever that was, and it helped me not to give up on myself or on life.

The problem with this is that after a lifetime of thinking this way, you forget how to live in the moment. Or maybe I never learned how to live in the moment. Now that my present situation is pretty good, I want to enjoy it. To live in it and not be constantly searching ahead for the next good thing.

In an effort to learn how to live in the moment, I’ve chosen a theme word for 2014. Enjoy. That’s what I want to do. Enjoy my rehabbed house, my fabulous teenager, and even my loony pets. I want to enjoy every new review, new scene idea, and even the days when the words aren’t coming easy because I want to remember that I’m getting to do something amazing for a living.

And it’s still amazing, even when it isn’t easy.

My process right now is to take a second each day to be present. To look around and really see what I’ve accomplished and the gifts I’ve been given. I’m sure there will be days when I forget and fall into old habits. I already catch myself thinking about six months from now and how things might be. Can’t be perfect from the start, but I’m trying.

How about you? Ever heard of this picking a theme? I like it much better than making resolutions (which I haven’t done in years) or even setting goals. Goals are out there somewhere. Insisting we achieve something makes our happiness conditional. I don’t want conditional. I want to be happy regardless of hitting some lofty goal.

If you’re interested, what would your word be? Or you can pick a phrase. What mindset do you want to take into 2014? 

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21 responses to “My Word For 2014 – ENJOY!”

  1. Oh yeah! This is a great idea! I’m going for a celebrate theme. I want to join the parade/party everyday. I keep hearing Lionel Ritchie’s song in my head – Celebrate!

  2. Marnee Bailey says:

    I have no idea. I was thinking about this yesterday. Maybe Relax? Because it’s a good reminder to just calm down and be in the moment. Not to stress or worry needlessly. With these two boys, I think that’s a good theme. 🙂

    Happy New Year, lady!

  3. Jessica Ruddick says:

    I think I can get on board with “enjoy” or maybe “appreciate.” Even though things in my life are not exactly the way I’d like them to be, I’ve still got a pretty darn good life. I am also guilty of worrying too much about the future and focusing so much on reaching the next phase that I don’t enjoy the now. I’m scared to relax and let myself be happy. I’m scared that the minute I exhale and allow myself to be happy, I’ll jinx it.

    • Terri says:

      I’ve conquered the jinxing then. Once we get your Pollyanna up, you’ll get better at that. But there is the struggle to just exhale and be happy in the moment. I know exactly what you mean. Appreciate is good, too.

  4. Talia Quinn says:

    Terri, I think “enjoy” is a rich, wonderful word to keep in mind for the year. Centering, reminding you of what’s important in life.

    Mine is going to be rather different, though I expect enjoyment will be part of the whole. But after so many years squeezing writing into the edges of my life, I’m so happy that I can make it front and center, and that it’s finally looking like a tangible career. So mine? Write. Or, to make it broader and more New Year’s appropriate, I’ll say: Create.

    • Terri says:

      Sounds perfect to me, Talia. I’ve loved watching you be so methodical in your approach to releasing these books. And now I’m enjoying (there’s that word!) watching you take off.

      To fabulous creations!

  5. Jean says:

    My word for the year- Centered
    Should probably be Focus, but if I center myself and stay on track, I’ll be happy to have pages of words to edit.

  6. Meg Opperman (TM Opperman) says:

    Bloom
    as in “bloom where you are planted.”
    I have been unhappy where I have been living for the past year and a half. It isn’t looking like I will be moving soon, but this year I will do better at thriving here.

    • Terri says:

      Meg, the first time I ever heard that phrase, I was in a similar situation. I simply did not belong where I was living. I tried to make it work, but moved about a year later and my life got infinitely better.

      Well, it became hell for nearly 18 months, but it’s been all up since then. I’m sending you good thoughts that you find your place and become the beautiful flower you were meant to be. 🙂

  7. Great idea, Terri! I’m often too buried under work to even notice the passage of one day to the next. Hardly seems the point of “living,” does it? Of course I enjoy moments throughout the day, but I’ve never stopped to take note (that I AM enjoying). I love the idea of a theme for the year as well. I think mine is going to be “progress”–both as a verb and a noun. Hey, it can’t hurt! 🙂 Happy 2014!

  8. Tracy Brogan says:

    Great theme choice, Terri! I often talk with other writer friends about that constantly moving target. As soon as we reach one goal, we immediately start stressing about the next. So we’ve agreed to try harder to live in the moment, too. To count those blessings, even if it’s just over something simple as a great cup of coffee. I hope your 2014 is full of truly enjoyable times!!! (I think it will be 🙂

    • Terri says:

      Thank you, ma’am! I see pretty good things for you ahead as well. 🙂 We do always have that moving target. A friend who recently heard I’d be putting out a new series next year emailed to say it was pretty cool I was working that far ahead.

      I had to explain that the idea for that series actually showed up a year ago. THAT is how long this stuff simmers and bakes and takes to get to contract. And it’s still more than a year away!

  9. LOVE this, Terri! I’m a wee tad tardy to the party, but I love your idea. now I’m going to stress about picking the perfect word for all of 2014. So in the meantime, I’ll use yours. “Enjoy” is great. Or “chocolate” as a stand-in.

    Thanks for sharing this thought-provoking post!

    • Terri says:

      Doesn’t have to be perfect, Colette. If nothing else, something like this should be flexible. You could even pick a new word for every season. (An idea I got from Barbara Samuel a couple days ago.)

  10. Sandra Owens says:

    Fun blog, Terri. I was going to say my word would be write, but Talia beat me to it. I know she’d be willing to share it with me, but I want my own word so I’m going with “Happy”.

    I’m just going to be happy about everything, even that first draft I want to stuff in the shredder because I’ll be happy that I managed to write the damned thing in the first place.

    Also, it’s almost wine o’clock and I’m very happy about that. Cheers!

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